Dinner at Fig and Olive with one of my best friends – Christos Garkinos. © 2014 Jody Watley
My twitter timeline went all abuzz just before I was heading out to dinner with one of my best friends Christos Garkinos last night. He’d dealt with the loss of another of his longtime closest friends for 30 years – a difficult time is an understatement. Cathy had sadly lost her hard fought battle with cancer.
There’s nothing like good fine, a quality rose’, laughter and honest talk to keep life grounded.
The first thing I read before heading out was that Jennifer Lopez acted as if she didn’t know who “Jody Watley” was after Ryan Seacrest gave ’80′s Icon Jody Watley’ some love. My first reaction of course was: The nerve. The shade. The disrespect. Girl please. This was the consensus in my timeline. After all, homage was paid to me in a shout-out in one of Jennifer Lopez songs my fans had made me aware of sometime ago “Hold You Down” with Fat Joe..a formula that Eric B and Rakim and I had successfully blueprinted as a major crossover multi-format single in 1989, I’d add. How can anyone be a judge on these shows and not know a cross section of music and origins – typical I’d say as well when it comes to black artists. I did reply with a short tweet – with a link here to the site which is full of info for those who need to ‘learn it’ - decades of it!
Anyway, after a great time at dinner, always putting and keeping life in perspective, Christos and I had a wonderful time. It was nice to see him smile and eat – he hadn’t eaten much in the past week. By the time I came home, another best friend (my longest, nearest and dearest Wallace Butts) watched the show said it wasn’t that bad and he’d retracted his post on the Idol Facebook page. He conveyed it was in the context of hoop earrings — the judges were confused. Seacrest sang a bit of of one of my numerous hits, (not including those with Shalamar) “Don’t You Want Me..” to blank stares from the judges panel. Whatever. I always look to the bright side of things and know who I am, what I’ve done and continue to do – even when others don’t. The bright side is Ryan Seacrest did say my name on his show – and it got people talking, although I’ve never been one to court controversy and sensationalism. Often that is the name of the game. I was glad I didn’t go on a full blown Twitter rant. This is a lesson to everyone. Always take a step back and never react until the facts are in when it comes to negativity in particular – and then still count to 10!
Enjoy Life. A few favorite quotes come to mind-Keep what is useful, and discard what is not. No one can ever make you feel inferior without your permission. Define yourself for yourself. Don’t sweat the small stuff! Life is short – live to the fullest, appreciate yourself, your family and friends.