Remember we can never change another person, we can only change our response to their behavior – learn to be done.
So when someone repeatedly is deceitful, dishonest, manipulative (a form of disrespect), it’s up to you to stop playing their game. No matter how long you’ve tolerated it and or made excuses for behavior.
In life we should all continue to grow and improve. The only competition we have is staring us in the mirror – being the best you. Some people are too busy trying to be what and who they are not, often it may be rooted in envy, jealousy, lack of self-esteem; causing an inability to live their own authentic loves. Sometimes you get to a point of doneness – to leave them where they are.
Protect your peace. Pay attention to what and who you allow and what is tolerated in your circle. Pay attention to what we and others make excuses for. Are you elevating your standards or lowering them to accommodate others? What you allow with continue and the more you allow it, forgive, the less respect they will have for you in the end – to those people, it’s all a game.
Not everyone is trying to grow and that is their choice, however when you add dishonesty and deceitful behavior, that’s an integrity and character issue – do you want that? If you’re not careful you can find yourself repeatedly frustrated, disappointed and betrayed. Pay attention to who is trying to justify the unhealthy behavior, even if it’s you.
Know when to leave people exactly where they are. Be done – not mad, not bothered just done. Being done is not a grudge, it’s a boundary of which we are all entitled to set personally and professionally. Once you’ve seen who a person truly is, repeatedly – you can’t unsee it especially if there’s never any personal accountability nor growth. There’s immense power in being over it and protecting your personal peace – no games, no manipulations, no phony sneaky behavior accepted – just be done. Not every one gets a permanent seat at your table in this journey of life.
Stay in the light. Continue to grow and cultivate sustained personal peace. That’s my wattage thought for today! – Dr. Jody Watley