We are reminded constantly how precious life is and how unpredictable. Now more than ever be conscious of how you spend your time and with who. Even if you waste your own time – do it on things you enjoy even if that’s simply taking a moment or moments of pause. Set your own clock regardless of people. Technology by way of smart phones, watches – your personal devices, remember it shows how you are spending your time, no one else because it is yours.
I took this selfie before going onstage for Jammin’ De Mayo Saturday. I’d hurt my knee somehow, had a severe limp getting around and felt bummed that I would not be able to be as mobile as usual in my performance.
No matter what I was going to go on that stage and give my all and the smile was and is the light switch. I took this and said “Let’s Get It Girl!” As long as I can sing – the show will still go on, even if I have to be seated and give you all upper body poses, shoulders and face – the smile – the joy – the wattage is in effect.
Smiling at the crowd and catching their smiles back at me is always magic. They never know what an artist might be going through offstage or on it. I believe in energy and the reciprocation of it returns.
Ii thought of this quote this morning and thought I’d share it as a reminder in case you may be having a rough day or someone else might be —
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” — by Leo F. Buscaglia
Wishing the best of the new month, day and week to all. Count your blessings each day no matter what and live in gratitude for the gift.
I’ll be in Denver on Saturday May 7 for Jammin’ De Mayo at Fiddler’s Green Amphitheater doing a short set for the festival. See you there, in the meantime and all the time stream / download some Jody Watley Music past and present releases – available at all digital platforms.
Wishing everyone the best of the day and new week.
May your heart be happy, may your days be bright, may your roads be smooth, may the bumps in the road teach your life affirming lessons. May your burdens be light, may you find and exceed dreams, may you touch the stars and feel the joy of unexpected blessings. May you never forget how special you are. May you always live in gratitude for the gift of life no matter what is going on around you.
Whatever you may be going through good or not so good – make sure the mental tapes you play in your head in self-speak that you make sure it’s positive.
In case you forgot, this is your reminder, don’t forget to be awesome, because you are and have the ability. Be prepared, be optimistic, be open to new endeavors and experiences. If someone is trying to place you in the box of less than – remember to be awesome anyway. Other people’s perceptions of you are not your concern and not your reality.
Own who you are and know you are enough at your authentic self.
Remember we can never change another person, we can only change our response to their behavior – learn to be done.
So when someone repeatedly is deceitful, dishonest, manipulative (a form of disrespect), it’s up to you to stop playing their game. No matter how long you’ve tolerated it and or made excuses for behavior.
In life we should all continue to grow and improve. The only competition we have is staring us in the mirror – being the best you. Some people are too busy trying to be what and who they are not, often it may be rooted in envy, jealousy, lack of self-esteem; causing an inability to live their own authentic loves. Sometimes you get to a point of doneness – to leave them where they are.
Protect your peace. Pay attention to what and who you allow and what is tolerated in your circle. Pay attention to what we and others make excuses for. Are you elevating your standards or lowering them to accommodate others? What you allow with continue and the more you allow it, forgive, the less respect they will have for you in the end – to those people, it’s all a game.
Not everyone is trying to grow and that is their choice, however when you add dishonesty and deceitful behavior, that’s an integrity and character issue – do you want that? If you’re not careful you can find yourself repeatedly frustrated, disappointed and betrayed. Pay attention to who is trying to justify the unhealthy behavior, even if it’s you.
Know when to leave people exactly where they are. Be done – not mad, not bothered just done. Being done is not a grudge, it’s a boundary of which we are all entitled to set personally and professionally. Once you’ve seen who a person truly is, repeatedly – you can’t unsee it especially if there’s never any personal accountability nor growth. There’s immense power in being over it and protecting your personal peace – no games, no manipulations, no phony sneaky behavior accepted – just be done. Not every one gets a permanent seat at your table in this journey of life.
Stay in the light. Continue to grow and cultivate sustained personal peace. That’s my wattage thought for today! – Dr. Jody Watley