We are reminded constantly how precious life is and how unpredictable. Now more than ever be conscious of how you spend your time and with who. Even if you waste your own time – do it on things you enjoy even if that’s simply taking a moment or moments of pause. Set your own clock regardless of people. Technology by way of smart phones, watches – your personal devices, remember it shows how you are spending your time, no one else because it is yours.
Wishing the best of the new month, day and week to all. Count your blessings each day no matter what and live in gratitude for the gift.
I’ll be in Denver on Saturday May 7 for Jammin’ De Mayo at Fiddler’s Green Amphitheater doing a short set for the festival. See you there, in the meantime and all the time stream / download some Jody Watley Music past and present releases – available at all digital platforms.
Whatever you may be going through good or not so good – make sure the mental tapes you play in your head in self-speak that you make sure it’s positive.
In case you forgot, this is your reminder, don’t forget to be awesome, because you are and have the ability. Be prepared, be optimistic, be open to new endeavors and experiences. If someone is trying to place you in the box of less than – remember to be awesome anyway. Other people’s perceptions of you are not your concern and not your reality.
Own who you are and know you are enough at your authentic self.
Remember we can never change another person, we can only change our response to their behavior – learn to be done.
So when someone repeatedly is deceitful, dishonest, manipulative (a form of disrespect), it’s up to you to stop playing their game. No matter how long you’ve tolerated it and or made excuses for behavior.
In life we should all continue to grow and improve. The only competition we have is staring us in the mirror – being the best you. Some people are too busy trying to be what and who they are not, often it may be rooted in envy, jealousy, lack of self-esteem; causing an inability to live their own authentic loves. Sometimes you get to a point of doneness – to leave them where they are.
Protect your peace. Pay attention to what and who you allow and what is tolerated in your circle. Pay attention to what we and others make excuses for. Are you elevating your standards or lowering them to accommodate others? What you allow with continue and the more you allow it, forgive, the less respect they will have for you in the end – to those people, it’s all a game.
Not everyone is trying to grow and that is their choice, however when you add dishonesty and deceitful behavior, that’s an integrity and character issue – do you want that? If you’re not careful you can find yourself repeatedly frustrated, disappointed and betrayed. Pay attention to who is trying to justify the unhealthy behavior, even if it’s you.
Know when to leave people exactly where they are. Be done – not mad, not bothered just done. Being done is not a grudge, it’s a boundary of which we are all entitled to set personally and professionally. Once you’ve seen who a person truly is, repeatedly – you can’t unsee it especially if there’s never any personal accountability nor growth. There’s immense power in being over it and protecting your personal peace – no games, no manipulations, no phony sneaky behavior accepted – just be done. Not every one gets a permanent seat at your table in this journey of life.
Stay in the light. Continue to grow and cultivate sustained personal peace. That’s my wattage thought for today! – Dr. Jody Watley
Pay attention in various aspects of life be it personally or professionally. A lack of changed behavior is definitely a red flag.
As always, if I come across something that resonates with me I like to share these lightbulb moments with you as well. Know your circle. Sometimes you have to remove people if there is a pattern that is causing concern or anxiety, doing so is self-care. If the behavior isn’t changing they don’t respect you and don’t care. What you do this this realization is up to you moving forward.