This excerpt from Toni Morrison really resonated with me, it’s great food for thought. Live your life – set the tone and theme – change it when you feel like it. Don’t worry about other people’s expectations or opinions – we all have our own lives to live and shouldn’t waste time trying to conform what others think our journey should be about – because it may make them feel more comfortable.
One of my favorite books is “The Road Less Traveled” by M. Scott Peck. I read it for the first time in 1983 when I really decided to take control of my life especially professionally and the second time in 1989. This is one of my favorite poems, so I’m sharing it with you. Live your life – make your own choices no matter how much flack you might receive, it’s best to be authentic than to live someone else’s vision of your life.
The 29th Annual Night of a Thousand Gowns is more than just a dazzling display of regal glamour, benefitting The Center and The National Gay and Lesbian Taskforce and an opportunity to celebrate the LGBT community, and in particular, the colorful cross-dressing segment of that community. Jody Watley will make a special appearance as a performer singing a few selections as well as donating to the auction
“Everybody needs to feel loved..” Jody Watley, Affection 1995
This is true. People have been talking about me most of my life some good and some bad – but one is true ‘they’ keep talking and I keep doing. If we all did things worried about opinions of others – where would we be? Where would I be? Those opinions are irrelevant at the end of the day – never one to follow the crowd or popular opinion I say – you have a brain, instincts, savvy, smarts – use them! Who cares what someone else thinks, often the negative chatter is rife with fear, jealousy, envy and resentment anyway. If you believe in something or have a dream or goal for the right reasons – go after it.
My father would always tell me as a little girl “It’s not what others think about you – it’s what you think and believe about yourself.” A great lesson for life and self-esteem. Do You!
I received so much love today on my Facebook and Twitter feeds from fans and various media outlets – it’s overwhelming in a way because I wish it was possible to give each person a thank you hug of appreciation. These acts of kindness and affection toward me are never taken for granted. It gives strength to my wings that are always being challenged in one way or another (like anyone else) and reminds how music touches so many people.
Continuing to grow, evolve and appreciate the blessing and gift of life, health, love, motherhood, true friendship, music, career and so much more is what I’m about.
It’s strange how some will always see a person as they were – and not who they’ve grown into isn’t it? I also encounter this from time to time. I never think of age until others bring it up – it keeps my spirit young to let go of things and to not worry about getting ‘older.’ The only thing that gets me melancholy is missing my children being little – but reveling in the moment of the beauty of our relationship and closeness that remains solid. We gain a few pounds..our hormones and priorities shift..when you realize how much life is behind you – and really makes you appreciate and become even more selfish thinking of the life ahead of you – the now. Who you’re with, new goals, new dreams..new directions forward..what you’re working toward..it all becomes clearer with age.
I spoke to someone recently who I have not talked to in decades and was fine with that. It stood out how stuck in the past they were, delusional – even. I listened quietly not relating; but wishing them well. Life and time marches on. Celebrate today’s life, embrace your journey – we’re all travelers just passing through. Make it count no matter how large or small. Here’s to all that is most important in life..in our lives..in our lifetime!